Mediation is a great way to address family issues such as divorce, custody, visitation, and compensation. It can help break down complex topics into easy to understand components that both parties can understand and apply.
Mediation was first used in the legal context in the late 1700s and early 18th century. At that time, judges used to not have a background knowledge of subjects covered in mediation but rather had control over how much time was spent on each topic.
Today, judges have a basic knowledge of mediation that includes knowing how much time should be spent on introduction and what questions should be asked. After these questions are asked, the first element of the mediation is taking turns presenting!
This can be done face-to-face or by telephone. When doing it by telephone, make sure to ask for a phone number so that you can reach someone if needed.
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Possession of possessions
Possession of possessions is a very important question to ask in mediation. If your partner owns a lot of stuff, the next question is: how much do you really own?
Some belongings may be theirs in the sense that they bought them, but not necessarily owned for long periods of time. For example, your partner might consider a large collection of vintage clothing belonging to their mother as theirs because they owned many pieces and wore them often.
Others might be considered part of your shared life experience because you both own items that are important to you.
It is important to ask this question because if one person owns less than their spouse, then they might be entitled to some of the stuff they don’t own. If one person owns more than the other, then there might be an argument about ownership.
Financial support
Having enough money to support you and your family in a divorce is an important question to ask for mediation. While most people would like to see their husband or wife get their life back on track, they may not have the resources to do so.
Some people find it hard to maintain a minimum level of financial support. For example, while some people may feel confident that they can afford a modest lifestyle change such as buying groceries once the initial costs are taken care of, others may not believe it is necessary to stay involved in the mediation process.
On the other hand, some individuals feel guilty about supporting a family with only one income, and thus request a split finances that includes a minimal level of support. This helps them feel as if they are still associated with the mediation process but can live comfortably with just one income.
Future support
Future support asks what support the other party plans on providing during and after the divorce. This question can be phrased as a question or response to a past support request.
Since you are asking, what future supports will you provide, there should be a wide range of questions that respond to this question. Some examples include money, school and medical bills, an individual’s partner’s help with household chores, etc.
These questions can be difficult for both parties to answer due to internal conflicts and hidden desires. However, it is important to ask since this helps find potential supports in each other.
Future support is important to ask because if one person does not respond well to the other person’s responses, it can help find potential supports in each other. In turn helping them find what they want in terms of family members and household members.
Debts and assets
What debts you owe relative to each other and how much you can expect to receive in assets your respective assets contains is a key question in mediator.
Intentionally overplaying your assets or debts can lead to difficulty in the mediation process. For example, if one party had a large home equity line of credit balance against their house, the other party could easily take advantage of that.
As a mediator, you must be careful about this type of manipulation. If one party shows signs of financial distress, the other party should consider paying off the debt or putting it on a resale basis so the other party can gain some financial recognition for it.
Another sign that one party is trying to manipulate the system is by hiding money from me. They may be keeping money in an undisclosed account or hiding property ownership with relatives or friends.
Moving out of the family home
It is very common for a person who wants to live alone to ask for help moving out of the family home. This can be difficult, whether it is on your own or with the aid of another.
There are many ways to help move the family home out of you. You can buy or rent a space or premises to use as your home. You can find a trusted friend or neighbour to help you move.
You can also find a storage unit, attic, etc., and hire someone to remove any belongings you may need to get safely out.
Visitation rights
Having visitation rights gives a spouse the opportunity to see their children every week or month. Although not an expected question, many parents want to know if they have custody or access to the children in mediation.
Having a right to visit your child can be an important part of parenting. It can make a difference when you need to come and see your child often. By having a visitation right, you have some control over how often your ex-spouse will visit your children.
It can make a difference when you need to come and see your child often. By having a visitation right, you have some control over how often the ex-spouse will visit your children. By having a visitation right, neither party is required to agree on every visit as part of mediation.
Child custody
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There are several reasons for having a lot of contact with your children. The parents may together visit the kids, send letters, emails, and/or phone calls. The parents may also keep financial and legal documents such as school records and medical records for the children.
Contact between the parents can also include participation in child-related activities such as sports or educational programs. Finally, there may be evidence of childhood trauma or abuse in either party’s background which may influence which parent gets custody of the children.
As has been noted above, phone calls and visits are ok between parents who get divorced. However, having much involvement in your child-parent’s life is something that only one party should have control over.
Spousal support
With spousal support, your spouse must provide a financial contribution that is at least equal to the support that he or she should provide. Most people fail to ask for sufficient support because they do not think their spouse will give enough.
Unfortunately, people tend to be more generous in their mid-to-late years than during their early years. This may be due to the fact that they were dependent on them when they were younger and gave them what they needed.
When you ask for too much, you may receive less in the form of support from your spouse. You may also find that your supports no longer feel like you anymore, they feel like bosses or judges who decide whether or not you deserve money from you.
It is important to note that there is no limit to how much an individual can contribute towards spousal support. As long as their contributions are equal to the other’s contributions, it does not matter if it is more or less.