Anger can be a good thing, or a bad thing! It can make you stronger, or cause you to lose your focus.
The way we anger is based on what we are thinking. How we are feeling at the time of anger determines how positive or negative we are about things.
How we think about past events and people affects our present anger. We who have strong past experiences with certain people or things tend to be more angry than someone who has not experienced those things in a long time.
The Bible does not say that we should never get angry, but it does say that we should control our anger. We can have too much of an angry habit in the wrong situations.
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The causes of anger
Anger is one of the most common human feelings. It can make you feel angry because of what they say the feelings are, how they say them, and how they are expressed.
We ask a lot of ourselves when we are trying to control our own anger. We ask ourselves why I am angry, what caused me to be angry, and what I should do about it.
We also ask other people to be careful when we know someone who is angry. How you respond to anger can determine if you will get rid of it or make things worse.
Some causes of anger are gene-based, like the wiring in our bodies that tells us when something feels bad enough to need a reaction. Others are culture-based, like social norms that tell us we should not be angered but instead held back or expressed in secret.
There is a way out of this cycle of feeling angry and reacting with anger so that only one person gets hurt.
The consequences of anger
While most people know that being angry can hurt you, very little information exists about how and when to be angry.
Anger is a normal human emotion, but it should not be celebrated.
Anger can be destructive, sometimes even moreso than grief. It can lead to violence and even death.
Sadly, anger is a common complaint in the Christian community. A lot of Christians seem to overlook the negative effects of anger and instead focus on the way that anger may make you feel at the time.
How we feel when we are angry is just one part of an equation that involves who, what, where, why, and how we respond to anger. When we learn how to control our anger, we will better understand why God calls it an evil spirit (Mark 5:15-16).
This article will discuss some of the consequences of anger and share some resources for dealing with it in a healthy way.
How to deal with anger
God doesn’t use anger as a weapon. We are not to use our anger as a method of coping with stress.
We are not to let our anger run uncontrolled. We are to control and handle anger in a healthy way.
Anger is an emotion that we can have, and sometimes it becomes a habit that we don’t always control.
We all have moments when we are angry, but should not be. There are many things that bring us joy and comfort, and when angry they may feel like complete unreasonableness and lack of understanding.
It is important to know how to deal with anger in a healthy way so that you don’t hurt yourself or others. Reading the Bible can help you learn how to deal with anger in a healthy way.
Seek forgiveness
At the heart of the forgiveness prayer in most Christian traditions is the idea that we are broken, godly human beings made in the image of God.
This idea that we are sinners Who have failed at being good, but Who have beengiven a chance at redemption makes anger hard to understand. After all, how can you be sorry for someone who doesn’t know what they’re sorry for?
But while it can be hard to forgive someone who hasn’t done what God requires, it is far easier to pray for and forgiveness. We know why: because we know who Jesus is and because of His mercy, we can rest knowing He will give us what we need when we ask Him for it.
So when angry thoughts or words bubble up and take root in your mind, start by asking yourself whether what you’re thinking or saying is enough like God to make you feel better. If so, then probably only God can forgive someone wrong enough to break his own heart.
Give it to God
Most people who experience anger at God don’t know what he looks like, how he feels, or what it means to ask him to send anger his way.
We need to learn this from the Bible. The Bible teaches us that we should ask God for everything we are angry about.
He is the one who gives us our joy and peace, and He is the one who takes away our sadness. (1 Corinthians 13:4)
When we ask God for what we are angry about, He can remove it from our life more quickly than if we tried to change my mind or took action ourselves.
He may not always agree with what we say or do when we are angry, but if we believe that He does, then He will quickly forgive us. (1 John 1:7)
If you find yourself spending a lot of time angry with God, you should probably talk to Him about it.
Recognize your sin
We can’t experience anger without a sense of sin, so it’s important to recognize when you have sinned and need to repent.
Anger is a symptom of sin, and when we are in an angry state, we are not thinking clearly or feeling hate or disgust toward something.
That’s why it is essential to recognize your anger and pray for insight into what you are doing wrong.
You can be angry with someone for a variety of reasons. Maybe they hurt you or took something that was important to you. Or you feel like they don’t care about what you want or need.
Whatever the reason, it is important to recognize your anger and pray for insight into what you are doing wrong. Recognizing the sin that led to your anger is a beginning step in repentance. (See related article: 10 Things You Can Do At Night To Regain Confidence Before You Get Up In The Morning.
Acknowledge the harm you’ve done
It’s normal to feel anger when you see someone else suffering, or hear someone else suffering. But don’t let your anger blind you to what caused the anger in the first place.
Anger is a symptom of a deeper problem. When you are angry because you know someone else was hurt, then acceptance is important. You can’t just realize that they were angry and then be calm yourself.
It is very common for people to get bitterness instead of acceptance when they are angry. They may think that they have nothing to do except be sorry and admit it. But this isn’t healthy at all.
Bitter people are often short-sighted and easily led into behaviors that make them stay angry for longer than necessary.
Be aware that you are not alone when you are feeling angry and/or bitterness.
Make amends where possible
It’s best to make amends as soon as possible after you anger someone. This helps save you from developing anger in the future. It also helps you avoid being angry in the first place.
Amending your thoughts, words, and actions when someone angry can be difficult. It takes practice and a lot of mind-set to think and speak differently than you did when you were angry.
But it’s worth it! By making amends quickly, you will minimize any long-term effects of your anger on other people. You will also minimize the possibility of anyone else being angry in your presence.
Amending your thoughts and words can be hard if you are not at all aware that you were angry. You may have been thinking that what you said or done was fine, but were actually thinking or speaking or acting like he (or she) was wrong or unattractive or cheap-looking. This can rub off on others who are around you.
Make amends where possible is the best way to handle this issue. Be sure to apologize both formally and informally.