Trust is one of the most important concepts in life. Without it, there is no way to account for what happens next, what makes sense, or who you should be spending our time with.
In the context of marriage, trust refers to being able to believe and hope for your spouse without being afraid to make mistakes.
This refers not only to being able to trust in your spouse’s actions but also in their words.
For example, you can believe that your husband will never cheat on you despite his recent cheaters but you also need to trust that he will stay faithful if a new relationship threatens his current relationship.
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Marriage is a partnership
The word partnership in the phrase partnership in marriageoire depends on what kind of marriage we are talking about.
In the West, we think of a marriage as a legal agreement called a marriage. A marriage is meant to be a strong bond that lasts for life.
The husband and wife should trust each other, respect each other, and put the interests of the family first when it comes to sex. In addition, they must communicate about sex to make a strong bond between them.
Communication is key when it comes to sex! Couples need to learn how to communicate about sex so they have confidence in their own abilities during sex. Couples also need to learn how to trust themselves so they can give themselves permission to take control during sex.
Husbands, teach your wives to trust you
The word husband in the passage above means “officer.” He refers to his role as leader, to lead the conversation, to share the story, and to give her a place to stand.
He also refers to his role as lover, referring to her as his wife throughout marriage. As husband, you must learn how to be a faithful lover.
A faithful husband does many things well. He loves his wife, he takes care of business and home, and he lets her do what she wants with their house and stuff.
But maybe the most important thing a husband can do is teach his wife.
The word husbands in the passage above means sons-in-law.
Wives, teach your husbands to trust you
Men aren’t supposed to trust women, at least not in most cultures. We’re socialized to believe that women are typically “lazy” and “honey-poo-er” and that we should always be monitoring their actions and speaking up when we need help.
But the truth is, men don’t trust men enough in their relationships, and women don’t trust women enough in their relationships.
That’s why there are so many failed marriages and why so many people end up in bad relationships later in life.
Lack of trust can make its way into any relationship, whether it’s between a man and his husband, or between a husband and another man.
If you see your husband as an asset you better teach him how to use his worth as a person to gain control of other people, because he needs to learn this lesson eventually.
Nobody’s perfect, so don’t expect your spouse to be
It’s hard to trust people, even your own family and friends, completely. We are prone to error and to making decisions based on our own thoughts and/or preferences.
And we’re human! We can get caught up in our ego, in thinking that I know what is best for us, and that I must be able to approve of my spouse before he or she can have a chance to earn my trust.
That’s why it’s important for spouses to understand the stages of trust. And it’s also important for spouses to work on their trust-based skills together.
Here are some common ways that people fail to develop and maintain a level of faith in each other that enables them both to love and trusts their spouse.
Talk about difficult things with your spouse
It’s important to talk about difficult things with your spouse. We all have choices when it comes to talking to our partners, but what if we could change and communicate better?
Sometimes we don’t have the best words for how we feel, and that’s okay. It’s healthy to talk about our feelings, but more importantly, husband can say he feels bad enough about something to ask for help.
Having a spouse who can ask for help is a big factor in why we maintain trust in our marriage. When you can trust your husband or wife won’t lie to you or take something serious before consulting with him, that helps a lot.
Here are some things the Bible says about trust in marriage.
Share your responsibilities with your spouse
Our responsibility as husband and wife is to share the responsibilities of life with one another. We serve together, build together, fight together, and die together as soldiers.
However, in marriage we also have responsibilities toward our own lives and love into how we will share that love with one another and the world. This includes sharing the responsibilities of marriage, such as finances, parenting, domestic roles, and much more.
Many couples struggle with this concept of sharing roles. They feel like they are always coming up short when it comes to sharing responsibility. They also feel like they are failing if they don’t have everything “perfectly” shared between them.
It can be difficult to understand what your responsibilities to your spouse are without taking a look at where you are on each level of responsibility-sharing. It can help you learn how to move forward on each level.
Don’t assume the worst about your spouse
The idea of trust in marriage is a tough one to define. Does it mean something specific like believing that your spouse is innocent until proven guilty? Or does it just mean being willing to acknowledge that your spouse may make mistakes and not perfections?
We all make mistakes. We all fall short at times. Our spouses don’t always do the right thing at the right time.
The point is, faith in marriage isn’t about making sure your spouse doesn’t commit murder or shoplifting. It’s about knowing that they won’t make a good job job and will never be perfect, but you can trust them to do the right thing when you trust them.
Don’t assume the worst about your husband — even if he has lied before.
Check in with each other about important matters
We trust each other a lot, right? We talk to each other frequently and ask his or her opinions and suggestions.
And we spend a lot of time together too – we might spend most of our time in our relationship, not in the hours or days.
But does the Bible teach that we should never talk to or spend time with our husband or wife alone?
Not at all. In fact, the Bible teaches that we should always be spending time with one another.
The basic unit of human life is the conversation. We live in a culture that hinders conversation from being an uncomfortable thing that must be forced, but must be had! We have made it something to be avoided at all costs.